Less Advice, more Questions

by Yeti Widiati

Well, are we unable to advise? How can we not exhort children? And exhort one another to another.

Yeah, no. I'm not saying that we can't advise. I invite us parents and teachers to also keep up with advice by asking.

Why ask is important? I limit especially in the context of child education.
1. asked to give the parents an opportunity to get an idea as far as the child understands things. So that when we need to advise, then we will be advising more effective, for simply explaining what the child does not know. Explaining things the child has already known, it is counterproductive for making children reluctant to listen.

2. asked to give a child a chance to think logically, perform an analysis process, even until troubleshooting. It is especially when questions are filed as an open question, so the boy gets a chance to elaborating his mind. In this process, parents also have a chance to guide a way to think of a child.

3. asked to give the child a chance to introspect, think abstract and deep, to acquire insight.
The ability to think child, developed from the sensory, concrete to be abstract. The level shift is mainly influenced by language development and also stimulation of thought obtained through questions, discussions, and other high-level thinking processes.

4. asked to give a child a chance to develop independence and courage make decisions.
This way is powerful for teens, because they are at the tipping point of the transition from the reliance into independence, including independence in thinking. The question that gives an opportunity to make a self-sustaining conclusion, directly and not directly will increase child's confidence and teens, because they find themselves solving the problem.

I guess there's still a lot of benefits to ask. It is not obtained, if we only advise one direction.

Even God and the prophets teach by asking questions.

" then, don't you think it?" (QS. Yusuf: 109)

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