Developed and Adaptive Self (context berespon against stress)



Every living thing will attempt to defend itself from destruction. It's a natural mechanism conducted near without the process of thinking. Biologically, when people eat, drink and have sex, it's also an effort to defend itself. People run away from danger or fight back to defend themselves, everything is meant to defend itself. The baby is equipped with the "grasp" reflexes. It is the basis of self-Defense.
In Psychology, when someone is in the mood for an attack on him, for example is a mockery, which dihayati as a threat to destroy self-esteem, then people will automatically do a self-defense mechanism, such as self-absorbed or away from people who mock, With sharper content. Can also retaliate by passive passive, crushing but from behind. Talking and spreading its ugliness "in the back" is the way passive aggressive because it doesn't dare to face directly but so eager to retaliate. Ways like this do not cause comfort in self, comfort to others and at once not productive in solving problems.

Therefore during the defense mechanisms (defense mechanism) evoke a negative emotion that makes it uncomfortable on all sides, and it makes it worse and it complicates the problem, then I think it's less adaptive or even maladaptif.
Valliant, a psychiatrist, stating, at least 19 self-defense mechanism that can indicate someone's emotional maturity. At least our understanding of these ripe self-defense mechanisms can show us what we still need to develop and strengthen.
1. Acceptance, or reception against unpleasant situations that cannot be changed. In religion is called "sincere".
2. Altruism. A constructive social service and raises the joy and satisfaction.
3. Anticipation. Realistic Planning for the discomfort that may be encountered.
4. Courage, willingness and mental preparedness to face conflict, fear, pain, Ahaya, uncertainty, despair, inhibitions, change and pressure.
5. Emotionally controlled. The ability of berespon to demand with an emotional expression and acceptance of the environment.
6. Emotional emotions. Not depending on the approval and rejection of others.
7. Forgiveness or forgiving. The loss of hatred or anger against something threatening or dipersepsi as a threat, disapproval, a mistake or refusal to make peace.
8. Grateful. Feelings of gratitude or appreciation of other people's accomplishments. Grateful will increase the level of happiness and reduce tinggkat depression and stress.
9. of hearts. It is a person's consciousness to appreciate his opinion or his own mind without lowering his thoughts and opinions.
10. Humor. An open expression against ideas or thoughts (particularly not fun to face or discuss) that gives pleasure to others.
11. Identification. It's a way of shadowing someone good from character and behavior.
12. Compassion or compassion for someone else.
13. Mindfulness. Focus and orientation to the current conditions with full curiosity, openness and acceptance.
14. Simplicity. The process of wasteful and remains in a reasonable range.
15. Patience. Attempts to face difficult situations (delay, provocation, critics, attack) by avoiding negative berespon.
16. Respect / respect. Desire and willingness show appreciation to a person's quality and shows specific actions that increase self-esteem. The Foundation of respect will last longer.
17. Sublimation. Transformation or change of negative emotion, desire or urge into a healthy and acceptable action. For instance, transforming the energy of aggression into sports.
18. Suppresi. A conscious decision to delay paying attention to mind, emotion or need and choose to focus on what's happening now.
19. Tolerance. Willingness to give permission to something less approved.

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