Friday, November 10, 2017

Eased Child's Emotions



Emotion is like gasoline that moves the machine. Too big he'll burn and ruin too little he doesn't move.

On the child, emotions appear to express what is felt and can not be articulated properly by child. Emotions can mean cry for help, because of the helplessness or just seek attention. Whatever it is, an adult's sensitivity to capture and proper berespon is crucial. Because the right response is an example for a child how soon he berespon against his own emotions and others. Any emotional condition needs appeased and cannot be left.

When we feel helpless, then our desire is for protection. We don't want to hear any advice. All we want is a warm warmth. Once we feel comfortable and safe we're brave to step, especially if we have a guarantee that we will still get the guard.

These principles need to be taught and exemplified so that children can manage their emotions, do coping and solving problem.

So the stages to be done are;
1. admissions.
When the child's emotions rise, example; crying for sad, tantrum for anger, avoid being embarrassed, disappointed, scared and anxious. Then the first thing to do is to accept that the emotion is being experienced. Sometimes don't need to talk. Attitudes can be more valuable. Hug and caress when sad, anxious and scared or giving time (e.g. when tantrum) can be done.

2. Acknowledge.
Acknowledging and knowing the feeling is a road opener for solving problems. We can't solve problems if we ourselves don't know how we feel or even deny it.
Children still don't understand his feelings. Sometimes an adult needs to know and "name" against those feelings. " Fall, boy, sick You're sad..."
A bigger boy (who understands his feelings) can be asked, " why cry darling? Try to tell mother."
Accept his confession, there's no need to be criticized or deniable.

3. Secure the safe.
Fears, anxious and sad usually because they feel unsafe. Then give a guarantee to the boy that he's safe.
"it's all right, let's hug you first"

4. Teach a boy to assuage his emotions.
Relaxation Techniques, such as relaxing breaths, istighfar, drinking white water, tapping, Accolade, lying or secluded in the room, listening to music, etc, can be taught. Everyone has the most appropriate way to be found to lower emotion immediately.

5. Reframing
Once the child's emotions subside (the time will be different depending on the sensitivity of child and stimulus that cause emotion), then we take the Taking kids to see problems from different perspectives.

6. Offer / teach some solutions
These stages are effective when the emotions are over. It also applies to advice. A lot of adults hurry to get to this stage and pass through the first stage of which a child doesn't receive advice or advice because it's still busy with his emotions
Say, " slow down. Remember, like the bride's way."

7. Future Pacing
These stages can be included in no stage. 6. Point is what will be done in the next day when there is a situation or the same event.
" later if you walk in a slippery spot or slow down

8. Reinforcement (positive reinforcement)
Flattery and giving passion when a positive thing is shown so not when the child is still emotional. So the day when the child will come to know.
" well, your son's clever mother of mother. God willing, yes."

In fact, the stages of this process vary according to its occurrences. Falling because the slip may only need a few seconds. Just complete all the stages. But being bullied or scolded parents will take longer. The principles, the more often, the stages will become faster. And children don't have to always rely on adults. He learned to manage his emotions independently.

* there are no words or words exactly the same for everyone. It requires observation and trial error to find which is the most appropriate way.

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